Can Self-Love Be Better Than Partnered Sex?

Two hands together making a heart shape

You don’t have to flirt with your hand or buy it dinner.

You don’t have to worry about getting an STI from your hand.

Your hand is unlikely to say “no.”

You know your penis better than anyone else does!

Playboy says that these are some of the reasons that many men prefer masturbation to sexual intercourse.

“There are a lot of men who prefer masturbation to sex for several reasons,” Sunny Rodgers, sexologist and ambassador for the American Sexual Health Association tells Playboy. “I feel the main reason is because men look to ejaculation as a stress release and masturbation can deliver this outcome without having to worry about pleasuring another person and any of the emotional complications that sometimes accompany the act of sex.”

If masturbation doesn’t get in the way of your relationships, it’s no big deal. In fact, regular masturbation can increase your sex drive. Why, then, is there such a stigma?

Some Men Prefer Masturbation to Sex, But Will Never Admit It



  1. “in my psychoanalytic practice I have had excellent success with all forms of sexual aberration, with the one exception of masturbation.

    In these cases, even though I have often been successful in “curing” the condition, so that the man has been able to carry on with satisfaction to himself and his family the normal functions of a husband, I have never really got rid of the peculiar mental and moral characteristics which have been, if not implanted, at least encouraged and fostered, by this devastating habit.

    Now do remember this; it is the guarantee of wholesomeness in any Invocation that there should be contact with another. It is better to conjure up the most obnoxious demons from the most noisome pit of Hell than to take one’s own exhilarations for Divine benediction; if only because there was never a demon yet so atrocious as that same old Ego.”

    – Magick Without Tears, Chapter 42

    • I think that it’s important to read that bit for context, as ultimately it’s about letting go of ego. It’s also vital to remember that even the Prophet of the New Aeon could be mistaken — he was a human being!

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