Women’s Sex Magick: Avoiding Penetration Pain

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While the idea of sex magick in literature seems to revolve around the idea that a couple experiences simultaneous climax and mutual pleasure, the reality is a bit more complicated. Not all women orgasm, and those who do don’t necessarily get there easily or quickly. Add to that the idea that there are physical limitations to consider, proportions of partners, and so on, and one realizes that the practical needs also to be thought through.

Many people don’t realize that the average vagina is about 3 to 4 inches deep, while the average penis is about 5 or 6 inches long. As WebMD points out, “Regardless of how long the vagina is, the area that is thought to be important for most women’s sexual response is the outer one-third.” Still, one might worry that penetration has the potential to be painful, and indeed it does without some attention to detail. An advice column in the Chicago Tribune offers suggestions for making penetrative sex more pleasant for people with cervixes: Ask Anna: How to avoid painful, cervix-hitting sex. Please note that this advice needn’t be limited to heterosexual, penis in vagina pairings, but also can apply to any sex act when a vagina is penetrated.

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  1. Seems weird that you’re leaving out the most obvious route to sexual pleasure: clitoral stimulation. Limiting one’s sex magick practice to penetration seems really, really weird.

    • I agree that limiting one’s sex magick practice would be really weird, but let’s be honest. Many people enjoy penetration, and it’s a shame when pain gets in the way. I’d rather make it possible for people to enjoy sex in all its myriad glories. Can’t write an entire treatise in a blog post, though!

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